Sharin’ a true testimony…
My kids are pretty awesome and I think they’ve grown up to be pretty awesome individuals- (not being partial of course). We’ve had many a discussion on family values, commitments, our true purpose here on earth with our kids. And, it is of great conviction when you can experience your kids being the “teachers” to US as the parents. There is a lot that our kids have taught us over the years. But I want to share this experience with you.
A few years ago, some people, but one in particular did a really crappy thing to my son. When you think of friends and what a friend should really be, I think of someone that should be there for you through thick and thin and not only the good times BUT especially the TOUGH times. Well, one that was almost like a brother, bailed at the most conflicting time and they parted ways. Long story short… my son has been able to forgive him and move on. I on the other hand, saw him tonight and I couldn’t even look at the guy. My son and I have a very close relationship and he can ALWAYS “read” his momma, so upfront and honest I HAVE to be. So after we left the show, I felt horrible about not being able to confront or even say a mere hello to that person, but I felt especially low that I couldn’t forgive like my son had. So I called him up and asked him to please give me some time to work on that.
There are a lot of admirable qualities in my son but we, (the family), have always talked about his ability to forgive others. It’s as though it comes without hesitation and “child-like” in that kids tend to move on and not harbor those bad feelings against others and he does that so beautifully. Wouldn’t we all love to be able to do the same?
There have been many instances in which I needed to forgive and let go and am ashamed that my kids have seen that I have struggled with that. But I am working on that. Hence the need for the phone call to explain my actions to him.
His comment to me was that he knew how awkward and difficult that had to be and that he understood I was just being a mom and that I feel the need to protect him. But he also explained how no one needs the bad energy in life and that we ALL make mistakes.
And yes, that we do!
I thanked him for being patient and understanding and I told him that I loved that about him and how I truly aspire to have the gift to forgive that he does. He taught me such a great lesson by example.
It’s truly a noble quality and it’s a beautiful thing, to be able to let go and move on. A beautiful lesson indeed and one I will continue to work on… I promised him.